Female Orgasm

Given the practical nature of sex (book-learning only gets you so far!) we tend to assume that sex experts must have personal experience to support their ‘expertise’.

Yet such is our society’s embarrassment over sex that even when a person, in a position of authority, is advising others about sex we think it improper to ask them to account for their sexual experiences. Even though these experiences constitute their primary qualifications.

Most women, sex experts or not, never learn to masturbate. Without the knowledge of how to achieve their own orgasm through masturbation, they never learn how their own sexual arousal works and that genital stimulation is required for orgasm as much for women as it is for men.

We even accept men advising on female orgasm because of the misconception that women respond to physical sex play much as men do. But women do not approach sex aroused enough (in their minds) for physical stimulation to be effective (lead to orgasm).

Given that so many women either mistake orgasm or fake it, it seems unlikely that many men have ever been with a woman who knows how to achieve her own orgasm. In any event while a woman simply lies there waiting for a man to give her an orgasm, she will never take responsibility for her achieving her own sexual arousal.

The fact is that men learn about how their mental arousal works through masturbation. But heterosexual women can claim to reach orgasm during sex without any need to acknowledge how they achieve sufficient psychological arousal for orgasm.

Providing intimate details of a sexual relationship

Some people object when intimate details are provided to describe sexual activity between two people. They assume that the author is either trying to impress or to shock. I have provided personal details of my sex life for two main reasons.

When I first started out, I was tempted to talk about sex generally because it was embarrassing to be specific. Over time I learned that it was easy to end up talking at cross purposes unless you are specific. One person’s ‘you know what I mean’ is not necessarily the same as another’s. In fact, shockingly they can be quite the opposite.

Women rarely masturbate or pay for sex as men do. Equally, many of the stranger sexual behaviours (e.g. fetishes) tend to be associated with men rather than women. On top of all of this we encourage women to limit their sexual experiences to vaginal intercourse even though intercourse is not designed, either physically or psychologically, to facilitate female orgasm.

Unsurprisingly, since the vagina has few nerve endings, I experience no arousal whatsoever from intercourse. My best orgasms come from masturbation alone but I also feel some highly pleasurable sexual arousal (and a kind of physical orgasm) from anal sex. After many years, I have also found ways to incorporate my sexual fantasies into my sex life.

Naturally all of this is very shocking. But if heterosexual women want to enjoy orgasm then they need to admit to some erotic or ‘naughty’ thoughts and deeds. How else does a person become aroused enough for orgasm? Women who insist that vaginal intercourse works for them despite all the known facts cause unnecessary confusion over how female orgasm is achieved.

The other reason that I want to be explicit about the details of my sexual experiences is in order to counteract people who will imply that I know nothing about sex, orgasm and fantasy. Inevitably when a woman admits to a lack of orgasm during sex, other people helpfully suggest she must be sexually inhibited, sexually ignorant or with a partner who is sexually incompetent.

So I need to tick all the boxes. OK – I’ve not had sex with hundreds of different men. But women who are promiscuous can be criticised for setting a ‘bad example’ to younger women. So I’m heterosexual. I’ve lived with my partner for over twenty years. I have three daughters. I am college educated and we have made the most of exploring sex together.

Over the years, like many other couples, we have found that achieving female orgasm as part of our sexual relationship is not easy. Others will claim otherwise but they never provide enough factual detail to make it clear that it is not just sexual bravado.



By: Jane Thomas

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Oftentimes the reason why your girlfriend is having such a difficult time achieving the kind of mind blowing orgasms that you both want her to have is so simple and obvious that you both don't even recognize it.

In fact, this rather simple reason why your girlfriend is having difficulty achieving the kind of mind blowing orgasms that you want to give her was also part of the reason why the two of you got together in the first place.

In this article you will discover the biggest reason why your girlfriend is having difficulty in regards to having orgasms while having sex with you and more importantly you will learn what steps to take in order to leave her sexually satisfied and glowing with orgasmic bliss.

Believe it or not the biggest reason why a lot of women are unable to have mind blowing orgasms during sex is because of the tremendous amount of stress that they currently have in their life and your inability to help get her to relax during your sexual encounters.

In other words, instead of giving her the kind of sexual relationship that she enjoys you are giving her the kind of sexual experience and relationship that adds more stress instead of helping to get her relax. When you fail to give her the kind of sexual experiences that allow her to relax instead of adding additional stress into her life what ultimately ends up happening is she soon finds herself simply not in the mood to have sex with you.

Thankfully, there are some simple steps that you can take that will help alleviate some of the stress in the life that the woman that you are with is having as well as give her the kind of mind blowing orgasms that will leave you both sexually satisfied.

The first and perhaps biggest thing you can is take your time during sexual foreplay and make sure that she is relaxed before even beginning to consider moving on to more intimate acts.

A great sexual foreplay technique for you to use especially on a woman that is faced with a tremendous amount of stress in her life is giving her a nice sensual massage that will allow her to relieve some of that tension and stress that she has built up inside of her.

Of course the key to a great sensual massage is in making sure that you focus on her non sexual parts and wait till she is highly aroused before moving on to her breast and vaginal area.

When done properly if you are paying close attention to her body what you will notice is that once she is fully relaxed and more importantly becoming highly aroused she will begin to slightly life her pelvis in an effort to get you to begin touching her more sexual parts.

At this point, since she is fully relaxed and becoming more and more aroused it is a good time to begin focusing on her more sexual parts such as her breast and vaginal area.

When you are ready to focus more on her vaginal or clitoris area if you really want to give her the kind of sexual experience that she will remember for a lifetime apply some G Female Stimulating Gel underneath the hood of her clitoris and gently massage it in.

As you will soon discover the increase in sexual sensations that the G Female Stimulating Gel gives her combined with your sensitive touch will have her experiencing the most amazing mind blowing orgasms that will have her looking forward to having sex with you each and every night, guaranteed.



By: Trey Osborne

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Gerry Restrivera asked:


Lovemaking is a very important part of a sexual relationship between a man and a woman. This is one way to connect with each other physically and emotionally. Both should be satisfied during lovemaking, unfortunately most women find it hard to reach orgasm.  It is important to know how to help her achieve a female orgasm to give her the pleasure she deserves.

Most women find it hard to have an orgasm during lovemaking and some women fake their orgasm because they do not want to hurt their man.  This should not be the case because there are effective ways to help her achieve a female orgasm. Here are some tips:

Do not pressure her.  Anxiousness can prevent her from getting intimate with you. Let her feel the intimacy of your lovemaking to get in touch with her feelings. Make her feel relaxed and let go of the pressure.

Oral sex. Explore your lovemaking with good oral sex.  Find out what works best for her and what drives her to the climax of lovemaking.  Prolonged foreplay and increasing her anticipation are two things that can work for your advantage if you want to turn her on. Doing this technique the right way can help her achieve a female orgasm.

Different sexual positions. It is best to try different sexual positions to eliminate any reservation in her part.  If you keep doing the same thing and there is no variation in the sexual position, it might prevent her from orgasm.  Be sensitive with her response and you will know what to do to help her achieve a female orgasm.

If you will carefully listen and observe her during lovemaking, you will know exactly what she wants. If you want to learn more lovemaking techniques to help her achieve a female orgasm visit Secret Orgasm.

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Annalise