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A very common question in regards to Christian sex advice, is: what is allowable? Are only certain positions allowable? Are sex toys allowable? Are only certain techniques allowable? Here is some very important Christian sex advice which will tell you exactly what is allowable and what is not!

First of all, what is allowable is essentially most anything that a Christian couple mutually agrees upon. That is really the key. There must be mutual agreement, and a sex technique or method cannot be forced or coerced onto another who is in disagreement with that particular form of intimacy.

What about sex toys?

This again generally falls under the above guidelines that if both individuals agree upon a certain sex toy, then they should allow it without fear of sin. There are some exceptions as described below.

So what is not allowable in sex?

What is not allowable within sex is bringing a third party into intimacy. Sex should be between the Christian couple only. Threesomes, foursomes or more, are not at all allowed. Now, in regards to a sex toy, the toy should not resemble or mimic that of a third party either.

Is there any other Christian sex advice we should know in regards to what is allowable and what is not?

There is the issue of pornography. This should also not be allowed within intimacy, especially as something used during or before sex. Pornography touches on issues of lust, and should not be included within Christian sex practice.

Other than that, Christian couples are free to explore and enjoy sexual intimacy to the fullest. You can greatly improve your sex life by reading a sex manual which specifically focuses on Christian intimacy. It will provide guidelines to follow, as well as unique, exciting, enjoyable, and erotic ways for you to become intimate with one another.

By: Chess McDoogle

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Dominik

There has been some confusion over whether Christian sex toys are healthy and sound for the Christian intimate relationship. They in fact can be a healthy addition to a Christian relationship, within reason. Here are some very important guidelines for Christian sex toy inclusion:

1. Safety. As always safety should be a number one concern regarding toys. The purpose is to add or compliment pleasure, not to inflict any unnecessary harm. This of course wouldn't be the intention with the Christian couple, but it's important to be sure a toy does not pose any noticeable accidental harm or danger to yourself or your Christian partner.

2. Avoid. There are some intimate toys to avoid. One such would be any sex toy resembling or mimicking that of another person, figure, or representing such. There are toys present which will resemble, say for instance, a popular celebrity figure. This is akin to bringing in a third party to your relationship, and naturally that is a major no-no that goes against Christian intimacy.

3. Imagination. Your choices for intimate toys can include a wide variety of lotions, lubes, erotic oils and fragrances, and even various erotic foods, syrups, frosting, or other sweet flavorings. Make or create your own safe and sound toy, such as a tickler pillow or erotic massage pleaser and teaser.

While certain limitations exist when including a toy into a relationship, with creative imagination there is a wide open arena of erotic and intimate toys to create, include, and intimately enjoy!

By: Chess McDoogle

About the Author:

Alyson

Toys aren’t just for kids anymore. And with the vast array of sex toys that are being made and created for adults, there’s no reason for you to not find something that pleases you—in so very many ways.

Talking about sex

The trick with talking about sex and things that you’d like to do in order to improve your sex life is to not bring it up right after or right before you’re actually doing the ‘deed.’

You want to find a time that’s outside of the bedroom and unrushed. Talk in a secluded corner of a restaurant or in your kitchen. Stay out of the bedroom for the moment. You don’t want to cause any undue pressure and scare him or her away.

Be honest and open about what you’ve been thinking about. Are you thinking about trying some new toys in general or do you want to share some finds with your partner? Talk about the benefits that you’ve discovered, and see what their feelings are as well. They may be perfectly open to trying something new.

But if they aren’t, then you may want to avoid putting any pressure on them. See if you can discuss it further down the road, and let them initiate anything further.

When they’ve said yes

When your partner has agreed to try some things out, don’t jump up and down (wait until they’re gone for that), but start the conversation about things that sound like fun.

Many times, going onto an Internet site together is the best way to look without pressure or embarrassment. Not that there’s any reason for you to be embarrassed, but someone who is new can feel very vulnerable and timid. The anonymity of online can be very helpful. There are also user reviews many times as well as pictures.

There are many websites on the web to get you started on the road to pleasure. Look for the REAL user reviews as well as the great pictures. You’ll be sure to see something that you like, or something you’d like to try out. With the clear menus and thousands upon thousands of options, you’re sure to be caught looking for hours.

Online shopping gives you anonymity and discreetness. And without a salesperson or clerk looking over your shoulder, you can take your time and really pick out what you want. There’s no one trying to force you into buying something because they need a commission.

Starting off

One of the first forays into sex toys is usually a vibrator or dildo for a woman. Many women can not climax with just penetration or they need something to fill up the lonely days. Vibrators are terrific because not only can they stimulate vaginally, but they can also be used on the clitoris as well.

And although it seems like there aren’t as many toys for men, you just have to look a little harder. Why not try out a penis pump or a penis ring? Both of these can create an overwhelming sensation in the sensitive penis tip. Rings in general work by creating a sense of sensory deprivation, so that the man can ‘last longer’ until the opportune moment.

These can be especially difficult to purchase in person, especially if you’re a newbie. Try an online site to scope out the choices before settling on one penis toy or another.

A little more advanced

If you’re tried the vibrators and the penis toys, then you’re ready to venture into other areas. Anal play is something that many couples would like to try, but they’re not quite sure how to begin.

Anal beads can be a great way to give an added sense of stimulation during any other sexual acts. Of course, dildos and vibrators can also be used for this purpose, but these can be overly large and difficult for the beginner. Start off small and use a lot of lubricant to help with the beginning stages.

Tying it all up

And of course, there are always the non-mechanical toys for couples. Bondage play is a popular way to heighten the orgasm experience. By restraining one of the members of the couple, the other can taunt for hours if they want to.

With bondage however, you will want to start simple and work your way to more advanced restraint applications.

You might like to try a blindfold ,arm guards, collar and leash play or some effective looking accessories to make you look AND feel the part!

When it comes to toys, your imagination is your best guide. Talk about your fantasies and see how you might be able to make them come true. And do a little online voyeurism, who knows where that will lead when you’re done shopping?

By: Iris Emery

About the Author:

Skyler

If you think that sex is the most amazing activity ever and could never bore from it, then you need to speak with middle aged and married ladies. A lot of them will tell you how boring their sex life is, and how they aren't satisfied in bed. If you fear you may be the man or husband in this situation, then read on for some tips on how to improve your love life with amazing sex tricks.

Sex Toys

The first thing you can do to spice up your lovemaking is to add an ally into the mix. No, I don't mean another person, I'm talking about toys! Sex toys are fun and can add an immense amount of variety to your sex life. Take your woman with you to the store and pick out a toy or 2 together. You can make it not only pleasurable, but fun as well. If your woman likes surprises, then surprise her with an evening in and work a toy into your session. If you don't want to leave your home to buy a toy, there are plenty of tasteful and reputable sites online where you can purchase discreetly. Stop just using your fingers and your penis to rock her world, she will not only appreciate your ingenuity, she will return the favor.

Location

A quick and easy way to add spice and excitement to your relationship is to try having sex in different places other than the bedroom. If your woman is spontaneous, then have sex in places all over the home. Try doggy style on the kitchen table, or take a shower together and please her both orally and vaginally. The staircase is also a fun and different place to try, just be careful to not injure yourselves. If you're women is an exhibitionist, then have sex in the car. Not only will sex in different locations get her libido going, it can add a little kick to the rest of your relationship.

Fantasy & Role Play

All men and women have sexual fantasies. Your woman may not freely admit her sexual fantasy, so ask her what it is! By showing her that you are interested in pleasing her, you are opening her up to try all sorts of new things together. Some women may be embarrassed to tell you what their fantasy is, so be tactful and assure her it is ok. Once she has given you a scenario, act it out to the best of your ability. Try role playing to let loose, if you and your partner are in 'character', it may be easier to push the limits of your sexual experience.

If you're not ready to take the plunge and make a drastic change to your sex life, you may feel your partner drift from you. If you feel as though you need to make a slow change, simply changing positions or your routine can be a great way to start. If you only have sex at night, try having it in the morning or afternoon, or even more than once a day. You may find that when you make slight changes in your routine, you are adding spice and variety to not only your sex life, but your relationship as well.

By: George Christodoulou

About the Author:

Saul

There are some important areas in a Christian relationship which should be focused on in order to keep things fresh and exciting. Sex should definitely be an area that Christian couples should continually focus on and work towards keeping things exciting and new. Here are some great Christian sex ideas which you can use to spice up intimacy within your relationship:

1. Sex toys or intimacy aids!

A great way to automatically change things up or add another level of intimacy to your relationship, is by bringing in a Christian sex toy or intimacy aid. This does not have to be anything elaborate or complicated. For instance erotic massage oils can be a simple way to add variety to your intimacy.

2. Positions for sex!

An even easier way to increase variety in your sex life, is simply by learning and engaging in new intimate positions. This can be done on the spot, though you should research the Christian safe positions, and then learn the new positions so you can implement them safely and enjoyably.

3. A Sex Manual!

Probably the best way to add variety and increase your level of intimacy within your relationship, is by getting a Christian sex manual which will show dozens of different techniques, tips and tricks to apply specifically to sex within a Christian relationship. This can make a huge difference in increasing your frequency and enjoyment of sex.

This is a great tool as it will serve as a constant source for applying variety towards your intimacy. It will also outline all the accepted positions and practices within Christian intimate practice.

By: Chess McDoogle

About the Author:

Sterling