Female Orgasm

Given the practical nature of sex (book-learning only gets you so far!) we tend to assume that sex experts must have personal experience to support their ‘expertise’.

Yet such is our society’s embarrassment over sex that even when a person, in a position of authority, is advising others about sex we think it improper to ask them to account for their sexual experiences. Even though these experiences constitute their primary qualifications.

Most women, sex experts or not, never learn to masturbate. Without the knowledge of how to achieve their own orgasm through masturbation, they never learn how their own sexual arousal works and that genital stimulation is required for orgasm as much for women as it is for men.

We even accept men advising on female orgasm because of the misconception that women respond to physical sex play much as men do. But women do not approach sex aroused enough (in their minds) for physical stimulation to be effective (lead to orgasm).

Given that so many women either mistake orgasm or fake it, it seems unlikely that many men have ever been with a woman who knows how to achieve her own orgasm. In any event while a woman simply lies there waiting for a man to give her an orgasm, she will never take responsibility for her achieving her own sexual arousal.

The fact is that men learn about how their mental arousal works through masturbation. But heterosexual women can claim to reach orgasm during sex without any need to acknowledge how they achieve sufficient psychological arousal for orgasm.

Providing intimate details of a sexual relationship

Some people object when intimate details are provided to describe sexual activity between two people. They assume that the author is either trying to impress or to shock. I have provided personal details of my sex life for two main reasons.

When I first started out, I was tempted to talk about sex generally because it was embarrassing to be specific. Over time I learned that it was easy to end up talking at cross purposes unless you are specific. One person’s ‘you know what I mean’ is not necessarily the same as another’s. In fact, shockingly they can be quite the opposite.

Women rarely masturbate or pay for sex as men do. Equally, many of the stranger sexual behaviours (e.g. fetishes) tend to be associated with men rather than women. On top of all of this we encourage women to limit their sexual experiences to vaginal intercourse even though intercourse is not designed, either physically or psychologically, to facilitate female orgasm.

Unsurprisingly, since the vagina has few nerve endings, I experience no arousal whatsoever from intercourse. My best orgasms come from masturbation alone but I also feel some highly pleasurable sexual arousal (and a kind of physical orgasm) from anal sex. After many years, I have also found ways to incorporate my sexual fantasies into my sex life.

Naturally all of this is very shocking. But if heterosexual women want to enjoy orgasm then they need to admit to some erotic or ‘naughty’ thoughts and deeds. How else does a person become aroused enough for orgasm? Women who insist that vaginal intercourse works for them despite all the known facts cause unnecessary confusion over how female orgasm is achieved.

The other reason that I want to be explicit about the details of my sexual experiences is in order to counteract people who will imply that I know nothing about sex, orgasm and fantasy. Inevitably when a woman admits to a lack of orgasm during sex, other people helpfully suggest she must be sexually inhibited, sexually ignorant or with a partner who is sexually incompetent.

So I need to tick all the boxes. OK – I’ve not had sex with hundreds of different men. But women who are promiscuous can be criticised for setting a ‘bad example’ to younger women. So I’m heterosexual. I’ve lived with my partner for over twenty years. I have three daughters. I am college educated and we have made the most of exploring sex together.

Over the years, like many other couples, we have found that achieving female orgasm as part of our sexual relationship is not easy. Others will claim otherwise but they never provide enough factual detail to make it clear that it is not just sexual bravado.



By: Jane Thomas

About the Author:

Branson

Achieving the female orgasm is a possibility for every woman and it can be accomplished in three ways: through vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation. What men always fail to consider when making love to a woman is the fact that a penis is a lot different from a vagina.

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In order for a penis to be aroused, it needs to be stroked, plain and simple as that. However, a vagina needs more precise work in order to be stimulated.

Achieving the female orgasm through clitoral stimulation involves stimulating a woman's clitoris. This can be done in two basic positions called the orgasm positions. One position involves the woman straddling the man while he is lying on his back.



This is a great position for couples to try because it allows the woman to be active in the thrusting motion while giving the man the space to stimulate her clitoris using his fingers. Another orgasm position is when the man enters the woman from behind.

The other way to achieving the female orgasm is through G-spot stimulation. This can be tricky and requires some amount of skill. First is to know the location of a woman's G-spot which can be found on the anterior vaginal wall. You can stimulate a woman's G-spot using your fingers. You can also stimulate this area through certain sexual positions.

The third way for a woman to reach orgasm is through vaginal stimulation. However, if you still cannot be stimulated using these methods, do not be ashamed. There are female enhancers that are geared towards giving you the best orgasm you've always wanted to achieve.

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By: Thomas

About the Author:

Mauricio

To make your sex life fulfilling and satisfying, you have to learn how to give your girl orgasms. Sex should be enjoyable for both of you. Most women find it hard to have an orgasm and you need to arouse your girl to bring her to climax and orgasm with you.

If you know how to arouse your girl, sex will always be exciting and intimate for you and your woman. You will be the kind of man that women always love to share their intimate moments in bed. The greatest lover any woman could ever have.

Here are some tips on how to arouse your girl.

Good grooming. It is a big turn on to women if you know how to dress and carry yourself. Men can be sexy in their own way and be irresistible to women. If you have that aura, women cannot wait to undress you and to be with you. Know how to dress well, good hygiene, stay fit and be confident are simple ways to tickle her imagination and arouse your girl.

Talk with her. Having a conversation with her is another way to arouse your girl. Talk about your affection and your passion for her. Your desire to be with her and the things you want to share with her in bed. These things will engage her imagination and awaken her desire to be with you in bed.

Touch and caress her. Foreplay is an important part if you want to arouse your girl. Touch and caress her not only on her sensitive parts but also on other parts of her body like her feet, neck, shoulder, inside of her thighs and of course on her very sensitive private parts to arouse her. Give her what she want and let her enjoy your caress and touch.

Knowing how to caress and arouse your girl will lead her to orgasm that most women do not experience. You need to arouse her and bring her to the climax of lovemaking and achieve sexual satisfaction. Do you want to be that kind of man who can satisfy any woman in bed? Find out the secrets on how to give her an earth-shattering orgasm visit Great Lovemaking.

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By: Gerry Restrivera

About the Author:

Dario

There is no denying that having a solid sex life is a real wonderful thing, and many

couples who have this treat it as a blessing, but the fact is still the same that many of these couples are having issues in bed. Though its not a guarantee, some of  the following orgasm tips may help you in helping her to achieve a true female orgasm, by starting with the presteps before the actual act itself.

Everyone wants to know how to make a girl orgasm, but often times they leave out one of the most important phases - the lead up of romance.

Set her up for the right mood first

Creating the right mood within your atmosphere is very important, and its really up to the man to do this. If she sees you preparing for something in a mysterious way it may get her to relax, and set her up to be in the perfect mood for an orgasm.

Make the preperation itself a part of the act. You don't need to go overboard, but lighting a few scented candles in front of her, calming the lights, and even setting up the bed so that the pillows are all nice and fluffy is enough to turn on a lot of women. The point is to show her that you care and that its her time to be taken care of.

Using scent to make her tingle

Women are very drawn towards scents, both in a good and bad way. If you have been with a girl for sometime then you probably are well versed in her preferences of smell. Does she like sweet smells, spices, or perhaps even the smell of whiskey and cigars? Whatever she's attracted to, pertain to that particular scent.

You can get creative with this by using aromatics such as candles and poupouri or you can go a step further and include yourself in the mix up. Put on her favorite cologne, or sometimes even a certain scent of conditioner is enough to perk her up. The goal is to speak to and cover all of her favorite senses for maximum comfort and relaxation.

Lotion and friction go a long ways

I'm sure that you probably just got a lot of dirty thoughts from the title,  but what I'm talking about is something far more powerful. Something that gets neglected way too much.

The power of massage is the one gift that you can give to your partner, whether you are a guy or a girl. In fact, a good and thoughful massage for just about anyone works on a level of gratification much in the same way that sex does, but its almost in a league of its own.

I can't think of a better way to ease someone in to a state of sexuality than with the combination of good smells, and lotion being applied by warm hands. Make sure that if you do this that you really put the effort in. Don't rub out those kinks too hard or too gently. Find the in between and go with it.

Scalp massages are your friend

For a lot of women, simply being nurtured a little petted is very important. I think that most people of either sex in generally crave this a lot, but don't get enough of it, so if you are in the position to, you may want to consider using your finger tips to run through her hair.

Having the temples massaged is also deeply relaxing, and allows the muscles in the body to let down and stop tensing up. For some women having the palms of their hands massaged also has the same effect. In all honesty, this is one of the best pre orgasm tips you'll find.

Use your finger tips to test the waters

This is a great way to ease into a possibly sexual moment, and even if she enjoys having sex with you, but has trouble having an orgasm, this could possibly be a good lead up for that future event. Using your finger tips to carress her is a great segway from massage to total intimacy, because this type of petting is very much a little of both.

Remember though, this isn't a race, and you shouldn't try to rush anything. Put just as much passion and joy into this as everything else that you've been doing. With all of these presteps, you really don't need to spent too much time on them, but the commitment to passion is what's key here.

When put together these techniques are like one giant, unique massage, where every thoughtful component is important. Its at this point that you can see how she responds to your touch. You can then react to her response by responding yourself, but you need to match her every step of the way. Don't ahead of anything. Let her lead you.



By: Jon Sibbs

About the Author:

Larissa

Just like men, a woman will also feel an orgasm down to her toes. Unlike men however, women can have more than one orgasm, with each one getting increasingly more intense. You can pleasure a woman immensely if you know how to reach her hot spots and what to do. This is not difficult to do for any man. No matter who you are, if you know the secrets to being a good lover, you can make sure that your woman is not only satisfied, but is longing for sex with you again! Here's what you can do tonight to amp up her pleasure by a notch...

#1 - Try a little spanking: Most women are very turned on by authority figures and may not admit it, but like the idea of bedroom discipline. Take her over your knee and give her a light spanking on her bottom. You want to be sure not to hurt her, just give her a tingling sensation. For an alternate, you can have her stand over a desk or a bench for this sort of sexual play that is sure to get her in the mood and bring her around in a hurry.

#2 - Initiate light bondage: Tie her hands up with a silk cord or something else that will not rub her arms. You can then have your way with her, indulging in foreplay for some time before you actually have intercourse. The more time you take with a woman with regard to foreplay, and the more self assured you are in the bedroom, the more she will respond. Try these two tips tonight - they're naughty and daring - but they are sure to ignite a real fire in her!

By: Evan Kinney

About the Author:

Galilea