Female Orgasm

First thing to keep in mind is that, all sex toys need a little lubrication. The position and techniques do not matter when using a sex toy. It's just a matter of lubrication to make it more enjoyable and easy to use. Lubricants make your sex toys safer to use for you and your partner. You can feel a lot better when you properly lubricate it before your actual intercourse.

Our body creates a natural lubricant when having sex; this same principle is also applied when using a sex toy. If you want to feel a more natural way of having sex, using a sex toy, you have to apply this simple principle before starting. This will help so that you and your partner will not hurt yourself during too much friction. Always remember to put the right amount of lubrication even when you have a partner or just a solo performer.

It is very important to decide the right type of lubricant. There are three kinds of lubricant available in the market. The three basic formulations of lubricants are water based, silicon based, and the petroleum based which are closely similar to water based lube. The advantage of having a water based lube is that, you can use it on any virtual vibrator, masturbation, and dildo. It is very easy to clean after a sexual intercourse.

You just have to rinse it with warm water and it is ready again for use. But if you are using a waterproof toy, water based lube is not very effective to use. Water based lubricant will just rinse off when subjected to water as well. It will definitely defeat the purpose of using a lubricant. You may want to use a water based lubricant in any sex toy made of silicone. But using a silicone lube in a silicone toy will damage your sex toy. A silicone is greatly made up of small particles of crystals. When these tiny little crystals rub on to each other, they will definitely scratch each other. It will create havoc on the silicon toy that might create e tremendous damage on your sex toy.

If you want sensual fun in the water, silicon lube is just the right choice. If you also love using a waterproof toy, you can use the silicon lube too. You may use your sex toy for a life time if you will use a silicone lube. A silicon lube can be used again after long intercourse just by adding a little saliva or water into the silicone lube. It will not take many hours of cleaning this thing because a little soap and water can do the trick.

For female masturbation and non latex anal toys, petroleum lube is recommended to use. If you are fond of anal play you may use petroleum lube to make your entry as smooth as possible. Avoid using petroleum lube on sex toys made up of latex material. It tends to irritate the women's vagina during an intense sexual intercourse. Look for the best lubricant that you can use for your sexual fantasy.

By: Sam W. John

About the Author:

Kasandra

If you think that sex is the most amazing activity ever and could never bore from it, then you need to speak with middle aged and married ladies. A lot of them will tell you how boring their sex life is, and how they aren't satisfied in bed. If you fear you may be the man or husband in this situation, then read on for some tips on how to improve your love life with amazing sex tricks.

Sex Toys

The first thing you can do to spice up your lovemaking is to add an ally into the mix. No, I don't mean another person, I'm talking about toys! Sex toys are fun and can add an immense amount of variety to your sex life. Take your woman with you to the store and pick out a toy or 2 together. You can make it not only pleasurable, but fun as well. If your woman likes surprises, then surprise her with an evening in and work a toy into your session. If you don't want to leave your home to buy a toy, there are plenty of tasteful and reputable sites online where you can purchase discreetly. Stop just using your fingers and your penis to rock her world, she will not only appreciate your ingenuity, she will return the favor.

Location

A quick and easy way to add spice and excitement to your relationship is to try having sex in different places other than the bedroom. If your woman is spontaneous, then have sex in places all over the home. Try doggy style on the kitchen table, or take a shower together and please her both orally and vaginally. The staircase is also a fun and different place to try, just be careful to not injure yourselves. If you're women is an exhibitionist, then have sex in the car. Not only will sex in different locations get her libido going, it can add a little kick to the rest of your relationship.

Fantasy & Role Play

All men and women have sexual fantasies. Your woman may not freely admit her sexual fantasy, so ask her what it is! By showing her that you are interested in pleasing her, you are opening her up to try all sorts of new things together. Some women may be embarrassed to tell you what their fantasy is, so be tactful and assure her it is ok. Once she has given you a scenario, act it out to the best of your ability. Try role playing to let loose, if you and your partner are in 'character', it may be easier to push the limits of your sexual experience.

If you're not ready to take the plunge and make a drastic change to your sex life, you may feel your partner drift from you. If you feel as though you need to make a slow change, simply changing positions or your routine can be a great way to start. If you only have sex at night, try having it in the morning or afternoon, or even more than once a day. You may find that when you make slight changes in your routine, you are adding spice and variety to not only your sex life, but your relationship as well.

By: George Christodoulou

About the Author:

Saul

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#4 Training Reasons

One of the most interesting phenomenons I've witnessed in dealing with human sexuality is the ability of people to train themselves into having an orgasm. Any one who has ever masturbated has engaged in a selftraining program which has taught them how to orgasm. Before we talk about female training, I'll give you an example from male sexuality.

I worked with a male once who was a regular masturbator. During masturbation, he fantasized about having his partner bent over the edge of a couch and engaging in rear penetration, not anal sex. For months he used this same fantasy to help him reach orgasm during masturbation. This affected his sex life. When he was having sex with his partner, he found that he was losing his erection and finding it difficult to climax in any other position. The only way he was able to reach orgasm during actual sex was by imitating what he had been doing in his masturbation fantasies.

Essentially, he had trained himself about how to get off. Men are not the only ones who train themselves. In fact, the training men do usually does not interfere with their ability to reach an orgasm during actual intercourse. With women, it's different. Women train themselves in two ways. First, they train themselves to reach orgasm using specific techniques. Second, they train themselves for each orgasm using certain fantasies. Let's talk about both of these.

When women begin masturbating, they do tend to try multiple ways of accomplishing the goal. Once they find something that works then they stick to it. Let me give you an example. One woman I worked with had been masturbating with a vibrator for about ten years. She had to use the same vibrator every time because she claimed no other vibrator could bring her to orgasm. With sexual partners, she would fake orgasm then excuse herself to the bathroom where she would reach a real orgasm using her vibrator. After a decade of relying on the same toy and the same technique to reach orgasm, this young woman had taught her body how to have an orgasm.

Since her partner's penis was not her vibrator, it was not capable of doing the job. To his credit, he did try a variety of things to help her but the problem really wasn't his alone to fix. She had to re-train her body. The second method of training often begins even before a woman ever masturbates. As soon as girls begin fantasizing about men, they are beginning to train their bodies about how to reach orgasm. I have another example to share which illustrates this fact as well. A woman I worked with had been relying on the same fantasies during masturbation for almost two decades. Her preference were rape fantasies in which she was the victim and was non-violently coerced into having intercourse with multiple partners.

The fantasies involved different scenarios, locations, and men but the basics were all the same. Even when she tried to have other fantasies, they would always end up deteriorating into a rape fantasy before she was able to orgasm. The only time she was able to reach an orgasm with her husband was when they attempted to act out her fantasy. Like the other woman, she had to re-train her mind about what turned her on and what would lead her to an orgasm.

The reason I'm sharing these stories with you is because orgasm training is one of the biggest, yet most often unrecognized, reasons for women's difficulties in reaching an orgasm. The only way to break free of that old training is through experimentation. The more the two of you try different things the more likely she is to find something else that can help her climax.

What You Need to Remember

Keep in mind as you read the next two chapters that there are a number of reasons why women may have more difficulty reaching an orgasm than men will. Those reasons include social pressures not to enjoy sex, a lack of trust in the relationship, anatomical differences between men and women, and limited orgasm training.

Understanding what may be hampering your sexual relationship will help you determine the best course of action to take in order to enjoy mutually satisfying sex.

Female Orgasm and Foreplay

For men who want to please their partners, foreplay is not optional. I make that point because I've worked with lots of men who hated foreplay and just wanted to get down to business without realizing that foreplay has an important role in female orgasm. I've also worked with men who enjoy foreplay just as much as the women in their lives. What's important to realize is that foreplay should be about what makes her feel good because at this point you're probably already in a state of arousal. She is probably not at that point yet.

In this we're first going to discuss the female sexual arousal cycle and compare it to yours. Then, we'll look at some types of foreplay which you can try with your partner in order to help her become physically and psychologically ready to orgasm.



Mathias